If you recall, my last blog entitled, “DIVORCED, BUT STILL SINGLE, WAITING, LOOKING….. GIVING UP!? A WOMAN’S PERSPECTIVE!!” ended with a scripture to keep in mind. “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.” Proverbs 18:22
Many women may or may not be aware of the above scripture. However, if they were, would it make a difference? How many would really take the time to focus on “self” and their “relationship” with God instead of running from relationship to relationship?
I’ve had conversations with many single women that are, and have been waiting on that special man. The problem is when they are approached by a man that is totally opposite of what they desire, they’re so excited to have been approached, that they go against the desires and attributes they would like for the man to possess, and further ignore the warning signs. Although, they have been there and done that, they tend to latch onto a man because he drives a nice vehicle, is handsome, dress nice and smells good. As a repeated cycle of previous relationships, they so badly want things to be as they had hoped for, that instead of running in the opposite direction, they remain and make up excuses for the man’s inconceivable actions (i.e., borrowed car only, no job, poor hygiene (after first week), lies, etc.), and while sometimes blaming themselves for the actions of a man.
There are various reasons for relationships not working out. The main reason is women believing that they’re in a relationship; whereas, men believing they are just friends. So why do women believe they are in a relationship and men do not? Sometimes women believe they are in a relationship because they are giving up their most prized possession too soon, and/or men are treating them as if they are in a relationship; whereas, other times, men tell women what they want to hear to get what they want. Regardless of the reasoning, women should control their emotions more, while analyzing the words of a men with their actions. If they do not correlate, keep it moving. If there are signs that are ignored in the beginning, those signs will get brighter, louder and seen more frequently later.
Sometimes, women say it’s hard to know who is and who isn’t for them. What I have learned over the last couple of years, is whoever God brings to you will know, and you will know as well. Although physical attraction is a start, the spiritual and inward qualities of a man will determine if he’s a keeper, keeping in mind that the woman has to do and be what she expects from a man.
As I close, I wonder what men perspective on the abovementioned scripture is. Of course, everyone interpret things differently; however, I do not believe that there should arise any difficulties in the interpretation of such. It is what it is, and means what it says. So what is the problem? The problem is that many do not know, understand or follow the bible.
All and all, women and men need to realize that God does not need our assistance. He just need for us to get ourselves right within and with him, pray without ceasing, and he will take care of the rest.
So happy that one of my friends have done such, and is experiencing what God has delivered to her. Who’s next? I’m looking forward to God bringing me my Boaz!!