DOES A GOOD WOMAN HAVE A CHANCE AT TRUE LOVE WITH A GOOD MAN?

This is a question that many women have today.  However, how does one really define a good woman?  I guess more importantly, how does a man define a female as being a good woman?  Is being a good woman enough?  Inquiring minds of good women want to know!!

Many of the women whom I find myself speaking with have the same questions.  Many, including myself define a good woman as one who is spiritual, financially responsible, career oriented, virtuous, and takes care of her children (if she has any), her home, as well as her man.  However, many seem to end up with the short end of the stick when it comes to being blessed with a good man.  Why is that?  Does an independent woman intimidate a man?  Is it true that a man would prefer a needy woman so that they don’t have to live up to the expectations of an independent woman?   Are women impatient on waiting for who God has for them? What is it!!??

 On the quest of real love, one question that seems to come up more often than anything is “Am I Being Too Picky”.   My answer is, besides God, only you know what you’re willing to accept or not accept in a relationship.  When you start deviating from your desires that you prefer in a man in order to fit a prospect, you have back paddled and settled.  The problem is that eventually the characteristic that you settled for will begin to stick out more and more because it naturally becomes the focal point of your self-improvement plan on the one you’ve settled for.  This plan entails changing a man to fit your desires instead of loving and accepting him for who he is.  It’s not like he made you settle or lied to you as to who he really was.  You decided to accept him while subconsciously believing that you will change him.  The fact is that you cannot change or control a man’s character, and trying to do so, eventually leads to another broken relationship.   Why do I say this?  Because anytime you allow your emotions to be the deciding factor of accepting a man in your life, it will be your emotions that cause him to depart. 

Another question that comes to mind is if it was such an importance that a man possessed a certain characteristic, why was it so easily an exception when he didn’t possess it?  When you alter the desires you want in a man by accepting what you assume is his potential (thinking that you can help him achieve that characteristic, drive, determination, appearance, self esteem, self love, that you have prayed that your man possess) when he is comfortable with who he is and where he is in his life, the problem becomes two-fold.  First, you have shown that your prayer was in vain, because you doubted God from the beginning.  You accepted a man that you knew was not in sync with your prayer.  Second, you have shown the man that you have settled for that you are not honest; therefore, the trust has vanished and the relationship is strained, if not destroyed.  Why do I say this?  Because when you accept a person, you truly are comfortable with the totality of the person regardless of their flaws, shortcomings and/or their lack of desired characteristics. 

Again, everyone has their perspective on relationships and acquiring true love.  So now that the question is out, is there a man brave enough to address the questions posed by inquiring minds of good women?  How do you define a good woman?  Does man really prefer needy women?  Do you believe in he that finds a good wife find a good thing?  If you’re in a relationship or marriage, did you approach your lady first?  Please feel free to expand and voice your opinion. 

Thank you in advance!!  I look forward to participating in an adult dialogue.

 

2 thoughts on “DOES A GOOD WOMAN HAVE A CHANCE AT TRUE LOVE WITH A GOOD MAN?

  1. Kimberly Gant

    God designs the person who is for us, in his timing. The person God has for you will not be perfect but will have and love all the attributes that someone else took for granted. True Love only comes from God, how can two dwell unless they agree. Truuuullly a man of God who loves him and fear him will love and treat you the way its intended vice versa. Its not a chance but its predestined with purpose so that God’s will is brought foward out of that relationship! To God be the glory!

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    1. lindafwalker Post author

      Wow!!! Thank you for that powerful word!! I totally agree!! With God in it, all will come to fruition in HIS time. The key is being patient and not settling or giving in to attributes, characteristics that show that He is truly not of God.

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